A refreshing hike

Have you ever felt like you just needed to take a ‘time-out’ from life? I certainly have, especially recently. I’ve been in a bit of a funk lately for reasons I won’t bore you with. However, I finally feel like the funk is coming to an end (hopefully anyway!) and this weekend really helped me with that. It’s all about the way you see things — it’s easy to suck yourself into the negativity that’s out there, and to forget about all the positive things going on in your life. Moving forward, I’ve decided to work on having a more positive outlook. Negativity is draining. I’m sick of it!

Anyway, back to the thought of taking a ‘time-out’ — this weekend Colin and I got up real early on Sunday, packed a nice lunch and headed to NH. We went to the same spot Colin had spent time fishing this past summer. It was a gorgeous day and the woods were quiet and peaceful. It was nice to spend time just walking and enjoying being with one another. It’s funny, I’ve never really considered myself an ‘outdoorsy’ person yet that’s exactly what Colin is. Over the years I’ve experienced more and more ‘outdoorsy’ type stuff because of him. I’ve remained open-minded and in turn, have allowed myself to enjoy these activities we do together. Now I like to hike, fish, snowshoe, go camping, etc. (Although, we haven’t gone hunting together yet…don’t think I’ll ever get that far, seeing as the only time I shot a gun I cried — oops!).

When you grow up and you find that person who fits you like a glove, who makes you happier than you could have ever imagined, and who overall compliments you and your personality — you don’t worry about the fact that you’re both different in some ways. I am finding out that you sort of embrace those differences — you learn from them, you continue to grow closer to one another through them, and most importantly (I think) they keep things interesting and exciting.

Arguing in relationships (And 100 Days of Kindness, Day 70)

Today was a tired, sleepy, lazy day. That’s what Sunday’s are for, right? :)

My kindness today: I’m making something for Colin. I can’t tell you what it is because it’s a surprise!

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I can’t tell you how lucky I feel to be dating such an amazing person. He literally is my best friend who I also happen to be in love with. Good thing about this? We have a wonderful relationship. We get along very well – can joke around and make each other laugh like no one else. We have fun together, take care of each other, treat each other with respect, support each other. It’s a pretty good deal. On the other hand, since we’re so close, we both let little things get to us every now and then, which can spark little, unnecessary arguments. These arguments are both pointless and useless!Β  I’m working on having more patience when it comes to these things.

I’ve read millions of articles in woman’s magazines saying that occasional fighting in a relationship is healthy. In fact, never fighting or arguing in a relationship seems unhealthy, doesn’t it?

Do you have ‘rules’ when it comes to arguing in your relationship? How do you turn arguing/fighting into something productive?

Top 5 Things You Should Never Say on a First Date

{Thanks Jess at City Girls World!!}

Here are 5 things we at CityGirlsWorld do NOT want to hear on a first date. You may scoff while reading these lines. You may laugh. You may roll your eyes. But count yourself lucky because these are all true stories of why dating is not for the faint of heart or weak of stomach….

1. Can I use your bathroom?

Please don’t make up strange excuses to invite yourself into my home. If you’re welcome, you’ll be invited. And since it’s a first date, you’re probably NOT invited (unless I’m drunk but that invokes an entirely different set of rules).

2. How do you think this is going?

Can’t we just evaluate this date based on laughs, smiles, and witty banter? You know what I find really sexy and attractive? Confidence. If you don’t have it, fake it. A confident person doesn’t ask how it’s going. They know.

3.Β  This is definitely just a cold sore. Not herpes. I think.

Thanks for sharing! As a general rule, I prefer not to know too much about your bodily functions (please don’t make me list more examples) on our first date. If there is something gross on your mouth, either reschedule or find some liquid foundation. It’s not that women are vain shallow bitches. But perhaps you’ve heard —you only get one shot at a first impression.

4. Can I kiss you?

Please re-read points 2 and 3. If you want to kiss me, test me out by touching my arm or brushing my hand. If I reciprocate, you probably have the green light. If I pull back, you probably don’t. And if you DO decide to go for it? Lean in without hesitation and show me how its done. We have a word for that. It’s called “Throw Down” (please refer to every romance novel in stock at K-Mart) and we want more of it.

5. I collect… (insert something odd)

Some collections are ok –for example watches, cars, and houses. But otherwise, collections are a very iffy topic for a first date. Wait until I’ve learned that you’re a normal, handsome, witty guy before you confide in me about the miniature Dungeons and Dragons empire you’ve built in your basement. If I’m in love with you, I might just find it cute.